"Hi remember me?" a request message prompted on my social app. I do not really stay on social apps for long because it does not promote a positive impact on people unless the topic is worth it.
I encountered a man that tried to groom me when I was young 15, he messaged me a few days ago and told me that I had changed a lot now and looked “mature”. My heart raced as memories flooded back. I blocked him. How dare he talk to me like that? He tried to groom me back then, but I was too inexperienced in life to know how to react. Now, I’m more aware of the dangers and have learned from my experiences.
This man is NOT from my country (when I was in my teens). However, most of these pedophiles are from neighboring counties. Yeah, that is a clue. They all act conservative and religious but the misogyny they act in their daily lives is astonishing.
"Ara you are not that cute little girl I know anymore, you look so mature now." My eyes, widen and I didn't entertain more of this scumbag and blocked his new social account. Well I shit you not, of course, my appearance changed now for good, and shame on you you like girls who look like they are kiddos.
As I stared at the message that was sitting in my requests box, I was transported back to my younger self once more. My heart raced as visions of my past flooded back into my mind. I could remember how naive I was, the innocence and the ignorance, thinking the world revolved around joy and light. What a harsh awakening I experienced when I found out how cruel and unfair life can truly become.
I couldn't let myself become a helpless victim again. I had already experienced enough pain and trauma. So I summoned up all my strength to block him once more.
As I took a few deep breaths to calm down, I realized how far I'd come since those days. I was no longer that innocent, fragile child who was blind to the cruelty of the world. I was now stronger and smarter.
This is why I advocate outright lying on any private detail about you if you are a minor. It is not your job and responsibility to tell adults online what is going on in your life. Or just simply say, I do not want to discuss my private life. The block button and report button are there for a reason.
He is just one of the many predators online I encountered.
🟡 My advice for young teens who encounter a situation like this:
1. Never reveal too much private information about yourself online.
That's how stalkers and predators can easily track you.
2. Always be careful and vigilant when interacting with strangers.
If you feel uncomfortable, trust your instincts.
3. Block and report any suspicious or inappropriate messages you receive. Don't be afraid to seek help and speak up.
4. Talk to someone you trust, such as a family member or friend, about the incident. Getting emotional support can help you cope with the trauma.
5. Do not shy away from block and report buttons, use them on people who deserve it!
About the Author
Arabella Eloise Sveinsdóttir, a.k.a. Arabella Elric from Reykjavík is a visual artist, actress, writer, model, content creator, voice actress, and vlogger of Íslendingar-Mongolian heritage and Filipino nationality. She is an active volunteer for different organizations and humanitarian groups, animal rights activist, and an advocate for mental health.
🩰 Visual & Performing Artist 🟡
Email: arabellaelricart@gmail.com | https://linktr.ee/arabellaelric
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